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Is it ‘self-care’ or is it ‘selfish’ ?

Is it ‘self-care’ or is it ‘selfish’ ?

  Earlier this year I found myself in the middle of a delicious unexpected “me-time” opportunity, I was in my office when I had a couple of last minute client cancellations in a row, in the back of my mind I had remembered that just a couple of blocks away a woman was giving an … Continue reading

The Comparison Trap

The Comparison Trap

 “She is so amazing, articulate, beautiful, thin, accomplished, confident” with every recognition of beauty in that person, that object of our envy, we sink further and further in to self doubt and inner criticism. I call these experiences our toxic comparisons. In my body loathing days I was filled with them – daily. All around … Continue reading

A Profound Courtesy

A Profound Courtesy

There are times when I look at my children and become so overcome with gratitude it actually momentarily takes my breath away. In our family we call these ‘love attacks’. “Oh honey” I say through teary eyes while having held a stare a little too long, “I’m having a love attack” and my kids ready themselves for a relentless round of … Continue reading

Divine Spark of Light

Divine Spark of Light

When I was 17 yrs old I had an experience that I will be eternally grateful for. I was selected to be a part of a team of youth in a summer camp environment where we presented ‘talks’ to kids and other youth on a variety of topics. There was an incredible amount of creative … Continue reading

Befriending Hunger

Befriending Hunger

Sitting in the restaurant the other day with my daughter I became aware that I was experiencing a familiar dynamic of dis-ease as I repeatedly looked at the waiter and toward the kitchen doors, as if my very impatient stare could result in a quicker delivery of my lunch. I had been so wrapped up in … Continue reading

Manifesting Miracles with Oprah – (part 2)”

Manifesting Miracles with Oprah – (part 2)”

Hearing that I won tickets to the Oprah event in what had been an otherwise incredibly tough month due to the sudden passing of my father would have been enough, but then to get the news that I would be interviewed by Oprah through a separate set of circumstances – it was really becoming my wildest dream … Continue reading

Manifesting Miracles with Oprah – (part 1)

Manifesting Miracles with Oprah – (part 1)

WHAT?? ARE YOU KIDDING ME????  THIS IS CRAZY!! I CAN’T BELIEVE THIS!! I exclaimed with giddy and feverish excitement as I read my email Monday afternoon. That morning had begun with my usual ritual of mindfully grinding beans and brewing my bodum before the kids woke up and the fury of getting out the door ensued. Delightfully I had an … Continue reading

Seen and Known and Loved

Seen and Known and Loved

To be seen and known and loved, I’m  learning lately how these truly are my Deepest Cravings. What was buried behind years of body shame, diet obsession and compulsive eating was a hunger for authentic living and authentic human connection. I’ve been exploring for myself all the ways I became skillful at blocking myself from attaining … Continue reading

A New ‘KIND’ of New Year’s Resolution

A New ‘KIND’ of New Year’s Resolution

Somehow we instinctively get it with our children, our staff, our students and anyone else were trying to motivate. And yet when it comes to ourselves; the concept of how to truly motivate ourselves to live as we truly want to seems to allude us. For years I somehow believed that by being extremely harsh … Continue reading

The More You Crave, The More You Crave

The More You Crave, The More You Crave

There is a common expression in therapy circles “what you resist persists” and never have I found that more true than in the realm of food. This is why, for me, dieting is so dangerous and so ineffective. The constant restriction keeps us locked in a constant battle with the object of our obsession…food. We move between periods … Continue reading