Tagged with self esteem

Your Body: A Tumultuous Love Affair

Your Body: A Tumultuous Love Affair

You look in the mirror; you hate it. You give birth to your baby; you love it. You try on your bathing suit; you hate it. You finally feel better after a nasty flu; you love it. Your pants are too tight; you hate it. You feel proud of your workout; you love it. Up … Continue reading

The Comparison Trap

The Comparison Trap

 “She is so amazing, articulate, beautiful, thin, accomplished, confident” with every recognition of beauty in that person, that object of our envy, we sink further and further in to self doubt and inner criticism. I call these experiences our toxic comparisons. In my body loathing days I was filled with them – daily. All around … Continue reading

Thin – Pretty – Nice

Thin – Pretty – Nice

“Thin”, “Pretty”, “Nice”. According to Brene Brown these are the 3 adjectives that top the list when research participants are asked to describe what makes for a  feminine woman.  As a young overweight child I was pretty convinced that I couldn’t ever attain the attribute of ‘thin’, and as I watched Charlie’s Angels and played … Continue reading

Seven Spoonfuls of Love

Seven Spoonfuls of Love

At our youngest age we are fed solely by others in every way. We rely on others to nourish us, feed us, love us, guide us. As adults this role falls primarily on us but so often our focus is pulled to how we can love and nourish everyone around us that we forget to … Continue reading

Silencing the Bully Within

Silencing the Bully Within

Yesterday I received 2 disturbing e-mails about bullying. One was from a sweet and wonderful woman I know who shared a story about standing at a street corner while a passerby hurled a violent insult towards her about the size of her body propelling her from enjoying a normal sunny autumn day into a moment … Continue reading

Holding the Olive Branch

Holding the Olive Branch

It is simple math that determines our size; calories in verses calories out.  We all know that on an intellectual level but somehow emotionally we can begin to view our own body as a villain, an active agent, in the story we tell ourselves about our weight. We attribute evil powers to the body that … Continue reading