Tagged with body image

Unpack the Shame from your Suitcase

Unpack the Shame from your Suitcase

  It’s summertime and for most of us that means long-awaited vacations, time on the beach, family reunions, summer gatherings etc. What this also means is that there are millions of people out there who are letting the joy of their events be eclipsed by the shame they feel about their body heading in to … Continue reading

Your Body: A Tumultuous Love Affair

Your Body: A Tumultuous Love Affair

You look in the mirror; you hate it. You give birth to your baby; you love it. You try on your bathing suit; you hate it. You finally feel better after a nasty flu; you love it. Your pants are too tight; you hate it. You feel proud of your workout; you love it. Up … Continue reading

A New New Years Tradition

A New New Years Tradition

I don’t remember when my former New Years tradition began but I am guessing it lasted for at least 20 years. Gearing up to the big day I would get intoxicated with excitement about my resolve to be perfect in my eating and exercise habits. I would completely convince myself that this was THE YEAR, … Continue reading

Baring it all in the Bedroom

Baring it all in the Bedroom

Ever wrap a bed sheet around your behind so your lover wouldn’t see you as you got up to go to the bathroom? I talk a lot about the impact of negative body image on one’s relationship with oneself but I don’t often discuss how it impacts our relationships with others. Loathing our bodies has many detrimental repercussions on … Continue reading

The Candy Haunting of a Compulsive Eater

The Candy Haunting of a Compulsive Eater

I remember the rush of excitement as the cascade of shiny color spilled out of my pillowcase sack on to my bedroom floor. I would methodically separate the loot into its categorical piles: chocolate, suckers, hard candies, chewy cadies, chips, gum and then the miscellaneous pile of disappointment that usually included a toothbrush (we had a … Continue reading

A Rendezvous with God

A Rendezvous with God

It was a watershed moment on the beach years ago when I realized that living in constant misery about the shape of my body was, in fact, far worse and life depleting than any number on the scale ever could be. It was a flash of insight when it became clear that I would continue … Continue reading

Thin – Pretty – Nice

Thin – Pretty – Nice

“Thin”, “Pretty”, “Nice”. According to Brene Brown these are the 3 adjectives that top the list when research participants are asked to describe what makes for a  feminine woman.  As a young overweight child I was pretty convinced that I couldn’t ever attain the attribute of ‘thin’, and as I watched Charlie’s Angels and played … Continue reading

A New ‘KIND’ of New Year’s Resolution

A New ‘KIND’ of New Year’s Resolution

Somehow we instinctively get it with our children, our staff, our students and anyone else were trying to motivate. And yet when it comes to ourselves; the concept of how to truly motivate ourselves to live as we truly want to seems to allude us. For years I somehow believed that by being extremely harsh … Continue reading

What else is lost in the ‘Biggest Loser’?

What else is lost in the ‘Biggest Loser’?

I’ve been hearing about ‘Biggest Loser’ competitions, inspired by the popular reality show, popping up all over the place, at fitness centers, schools and workplaces and I can’t help but think that these competitions offered under the guise of motivation and support just take us another step away from what most of us really crave; … Continue reading