Tag: acceptance
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Baring it all in the Bedroom
Ever wrap a bed sheet around your behind so your lover wouldn’t see you as you got up to go to the bathroom? I talk a lot about the impact of negative body image on one’s relationship with oneself but I don’t often discuss how it impacts our relationships with others. Loathing our bodies has many detrimental repercussions on…
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The Candy Haunting of a Compulsive Eater
I remember the rush of excitement as the cascade of shiny color spilled out of my pillowcase sack on to my bedroom floor. I would methodically separate the loot into its categorical piles: chocolate, suckers, hard candies, chewy cadies, chips, gum and then the miscellaneous pile of disappointment that usually included a toothbrush (we had a…
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The More You Crave, The More You Crave
There is a common expression in therapy circles “what you resist persists” and never have I found that more true than in the realm of food. This is why, for me, dieting is so dangerous and so ineffective. The constant restriction keeps us locked in a constant battle with the object of our obsession…food. We move between periods…
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Wrestling with the “I WANT”STER MONSTER
Recently a friend brought me to her gym to do a Zumba class with her on a guest pass. As part of the pass a young fitness trainer did an obligatory sales pitch which involved asking me about my goals, the areas I most want to change and eagerly inviting me to step on the scale.…
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Our life is NOW. Our body is NOW.
How much effort and energy do we pour in to trying to manifest better lives for ourselves? Most of our efforts are for goals and plans centered on improving. We spend countless hours thinking about what could be different in our work, our relationships, our home, our kids, our body…And. And. And. At the root of this mental merry-go-round is…