Seen and Known and Loved

Seen and Known and Loved

To be seen and known and loved, I’m  learning lately how these truly are my Deepest Cravings. What was buried behind years of body shame, diet obsession and compulsive eating was a hunger for authentic living and authentic human connection. I’ve been exploring for myself all the ways I became skillful at blocking myself from attaining … Continue reading

Tight Pants

Tight Pants

She lives within. That tiny, sometimes scared, sometimes hurt little girl. When she arrives she demands to be seen. She wants the world to stop and to be noticed, to be held. She reaches to be soothed in the old familiar ways, thus a return of some of the old patterns. You know the ones; … Continue reading

Thin – Pretty – Nice

Thin – Pretty – Nice

“Thin”, “Pretty”, “Nice”. According to Brene Brown these are the 3 adjectives that top the list when research participants are asked to describe what makes for a  feminine woman.  As a young overweight child I was pretty convinced that I couldn’t ever attain the attribute of ‘thin’, and as I watched Charlie’s Angels and played … Continue reading

What else is lost in the ‘Biggest Loser’?

What else is lost in the ‘Biggest Loser’?

I’ve been hearing about ‘Biggest Loser’ competitions, inspired by the popular reality show, popping up all over the place, at fitness centers, schools and workplaces and I can’t help but think that these competitions offered under the guise of motivation and support just take us another step away from what most of us really crave; … Continue reading

Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

You’ve most likely heard of a P.D.A. (public display of affection) but have you heard of a P.D.S.? I found myself experiencing one last week unexpectedly at a YMCA during an aquafit class. P-D-S: Public Display of Sadness. There I was in the middle of a pool with happy, chatting, splashing Seniors when a huge … Continue reading

The More You Crave, The More You Crave

The More You Crave, The More You Crave

There is a common expression in therapy circles “what you resist persists” and never have I found that more true than in the realm of food. This is why, for me, dieting is so dangerous and so ineffective. The constant restriction keeps us locked in a constant battle with the object of our obsession…food. We move between periods … Continue reading

Swallowing Boredom

Swallowing Boredom

It’s an itchy sensation…boredom. We don’t like it, we resist it, we want more, we feel we deserve MORE…sometimes this leads, quite frankly, to more in the way of calories…calories our body isn’t asking for in the moment…but there can be something very powerful about learning to allow ourselves to sit with the experience of boredom … Continue reading